After playing and arguing with it for a couple hours, I got most of them to change under classic, however the color scheme I want is lost when I do that. Like I said, the litestep theme seems to change them to the matching colors when it's in winxp mode, but not for classic mode where I have to approximate them and it just doesn't look as it should.

I don't understand why windows XP wasn't designed to allow us to change the blue title bar, but I don't want to return to windows classic so unless there is another way, I guess I'm stuck.