ok got it all worked out.. nothing else worked but this

http://www.litestep.net/index.php?section=4&action=view&catId=1&id=1170&hl=recycle

thanks to those who posted there. that rocks it doesnt even ask you if u want to erase the files.

ok now how do i make the image state change when a file goes there? =[

sounds to me like some if then statements but what command checks the status of the trash? or even just a normal folder. i havent found that yet.