sorry...noob question: how do i get my windows to look like:

http://e.1asphost.com/tyrium/custom.bmp

instead of

http://e.1asphost.com/tyrium/regular.bmp

You're in the correct forum already. Look at the sticky "Window Styles" above. If that doesn't provide enough information, look through the forums. There are approximately 10,000 threads about this. :)

If'n you are running Windows XP (home or Pro) you can use StyleXP and StyleBuilder from http://www.tgtsoft.com and either apply Themes to it from ThemeXP.org or build your own. Or as I have, modify and existing theme to suit. :-)

or use the uxtheme patcher http://redf.net/download.php?view.7