I was wondering if there was an ez way to customize your theme. Some themes I would like to change it so they can have desktop items and also change it so that the desktop items are not sticky'd to the desktop. Can neone help?

Everything is configured throung .rc (text) files in your theme directory. Study how they work and read the docs in your modules\docs dir.

let me help here your look for shorcut2/3 or icondesk, most likely.